God has a sense of humor

i am a pretty laid back person. I enjoy being still, taking naps & being quiet. God has a sense of humor in that he gave me a husband so different from me and beyond that gave me Jeremiah, who is a mini-Dave. They dont know how to be still, are wide awake (all the time) and are soooo loud. I love them both with all my heart, but it just seems so strange that we would be together.
I have finally come to the realization that God does things for a reason to grow you. Sometimes, it is so hard to see and know why in the moment, however. I have been really struggling with Jeremiah lately. He has been really testing my boundaries. We have had multiple battle of the wills lately. Harriet always prayed Dave would have a kid just like him and he got that. But what about Daves wife. I think this should be a question asked prior to getting married. It has been so hard to get used to this personality. I know God has taught me so much and changed me in so many ways through Dave and I am forever grateful. I know He is growing certain areas of me now too with Jeremiah, it is just so hard to see in the moment. I love my kid to pieces and he can be a sweetheart, but age 4 has really been a hard one for me. I see myself in him so much, but it is usually the negative traits, like his anger, his temper, his attitude. He argues everything that comes out of my mouth, which is what i did with my dad (I say did b/c I now see it and am making a conscience effort to not). It is so hard to see your flaws come out in your kid.
I am working really hard to be a better person, especially a better wife. I am re-reading Love and Respect and trying really hard to be respectful.
One part of the book says imagine if your son marries someone like you. That is part of my motivation to be better. I would not like Jeremiah or Thomas to marry someone like I was, who complains, nags, is disrespectful, breaks his spirit, shows contempt. This breaks my heart to think of my boys like that. I want them to see me being very respectful of their dad and see him treat me with all the love in the world. I want them to see how well we communicate about everything, and how we handle disagreements. I want them to know we love God first and each other second. I want them to know our relationship is a priority and we will do whatever it takes to make things work.
I feel like Dave and I are at a level we have never been at before in our marriage. May will make 6 years we have been married and 10 1/2 years together. We communicate better than ever now and i would put our marriage up against anyone. We have no secrets. I am happier than i have ever been and know God is changing me daily. I have so far to go, but i have come so far in this 10 years. We both have. I am so incredibly blessed to have the best husband in the world. He is so perfect for me, despite all the many differences. God knew what he was doing all these years ago and i know He has a plan for Jeremiah as well. I dont know yet how Thomas is going to be, but Im sure these Farris genes are hard to overcome, so i imagine, he will be pretty similar. Only time will tell.
I am so thankful for my boys and our differences. I know this is good for me and I welcome the changes that will hopefully take place in me as my boys grow up. Hopefully i will be able to see some of my good traits in them as well and a few less bad ones(in me and them)!